Feelings are valid! They are frequently triggered by stories we tell ourselves or actions we take. Our emotions are expressing themselves to us, and how we respond to them is critical. We are more likely to experience sadness, hurt, and/or anxiety if we tell ourselves we are not good enough or believe others think we are not good enough. However, if we switch to more positive narratives, our emotions will shift from painful to more positive.

Similarly, if we engage in negative behaviors, such as failing to set clear boundaries, we may experience negative emotions such as rage and/or resentment. Again, what we do with those feelings is entirely up to each of us. We can go inward and blame and shame ourselves; we can lash out at ourselves or others; or we can learn how to replace unhealthy behaviors with more positive behaviors.

During difficult times, a 2-minute breathing exercise or a more physical act, such as a quick walk around the block, can help support wellness.

When you understand that how you feel is a result of what you think or do, you will realize that working to identify and change negative thoughts and actions can result in positive changes in your life.

Of course, this is no easy task. We’re dealing with a muscle, the brain, which is pliable despite being tough and set in its ways.

Do you want to learn a few basic shifting techniques? In March, I’ll be posting strategies, beginning with compassion practice.

All the best,

Dr. C